I had a great day in Brockville yesterday. I met some wonderful community people who genuinely want to make life in their region happier for the younger of us. I met teachers that still have passion and compassion for their students. I met young people who are asking the great questions and looking at their world with healthy hope and desire.
It was my pleasure to be there.
Please allow me a little ramble of thoughts stimulated by our time together.
The thing that seduces me into teaching is the flash of joy that young people exhibit from time to time when they are breaking through into new thoughts. As people, they are still in “discovery mode.” Although they have come a long way since infancy, there remain sophistications that adult living and adult responsibilities will eventually impose upon them but as yet they are free from. Until then there is an expectation that life will bring them all the things they dream. There is an acknowledgment that they don’t yet know it all - and that they want to.
They absorb information. It passes through a less refined machine that is not designed to keep them safe (as it becomes when we age) but designed to help them grow. Make no mistake they don’t just accept everything people say to them. There is nothing gullible about them. They simply have a great combination of openness and skepticism. They still use emotion in combination with intellect. Because they come to the circumstance with the expectation that they will learn, they consider before they assimilate or discard.
Hence I have always found it easy to teach the concepts of power to younger audiences. I love teaching the course at Fleming.
Adults on the other hand have well established views on power and its place in their lives. When I speak to adults I find I have to persuade rather then reveal.
It has been my experience both as a teacher of adults, and also as a learner now back in school, that we tend to receive information in a closed way. We have constructed an impenetrable wall that has doors. We will not let anything new in unless it completely fits the way they want to see the world. If so we will open the door and let it in.
There is no longer a sense of discovery or joy in our learning.
It is more like fear.
Maybe it’s just that feeling of power we know so well. We understand that new information impacts the choices we make and we have become very anxious about change and very reliant on habits. Habits in our daily lives because it is the only way to survive the day and complete everything that must be done. Habits in our relationships because they are comfortable even when they are unhappy. Habits in our thinking because to change our views hurts our self image.
When adults open themselves up to new ideas they think they have to decide right then and there if what they are being presented with is “true or false.”
If it is false it must be rejected out of hand for risk that it will pollute their world view. The filter we use to determine such veracity is one of emotion - whether or not it makes us uncomfortable. If it causes us to question too many things we hold as “true” it is simply too much work. If we have to reevaluate too many of our views, we will cling to what we already have and go about making the same mistakes and wondering why nothing changes.
On the other hand when we see something that looks like truth, we think we have to immediately find some way to embody it. We are compelled to make it real in our lives. For although we resist, we still yearn for truth. We want to live truth.
This all or nothing approach often leaves us out in the cold when it comes to understanding power. We cling to the myths of power because they make us comfortable.
The thought that our relationships are full of power is upsetting.
The thought that we use power everyday as a parent, friend, employee, or spouse challenges our moral judgment of ourselves.
The idea that power is a methodology based on the exploitation of another person’s need, and available to all people, flies in the face of our life-long rationalization that power is OK. In fact, maybe it’s even a worthwhile pursuit.
Teachers like me, are particularly upset when you remind us that our lives are all about authoritative power imposed on children and parents by our laws. It is the “necessary” socialization of an individual. It is the training required to fit in. Otherwise you don’t belong.
Sometimes we forget that it is all about love.
When we come to the education power dynamic with a predominant intention based in love…well…then it doesn’t feel like power does it?
Maybe it isn’t…
Is power a good or bad thing? Well a better question is, can we live without power?
A better question yet is what is the opposite of power?
Compassion – when a teacher comes to the table with compassion they are not using their ability to control and exploit the needs of a young person to attain some end. They are simply there to help address those needs without any desire to affect own personal needs.
We didn’t get to talk about this yesterday. Power always has two sides - two dynamics. One with the Subjects needs in play – and since we don’t use power unless we need something – a dynamic with the Actors needs in play. It’s is how kids seem to be able to turn the tables in places like grocery store isles.
Nonetheless I think power has to have two sides to be power. When you drop your side of the bipolar dynamic – it is no longer power. It is compassion.
I saw a lot of compassion yesterday. It made me feel wonderful about the city of Brockville.
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