Detachment

It is essential when dealing with power to detach yourself from the situation.

Emotions always run hard in power dynamics.

Needs are emotion based things and a good power play exacerbates the effect of the need so as to create power from it. Which means it will exacerbate the emotional content of the need as well.

The first step in overcoming power is to detach from the circumstance so that the emotions are not the platform from which you make decisions.

Benjamin Franklin said - "That which begins in anger ends in shame."

Power will always evoke anger. Anger must be neutralized. To neutralize anger we must detach.

Detach. See the dynamic as needs and abilities. Re-take the ability to choose.

Nothing is as important as we think it is.

And we love our anger. It is invigorating. We see it as an entitlement. Just like the child in the grocery store, we think there is power in it. But there isn't really. The power is in need and our ability to overcome power is about our ability to overcome our own needs.

The only thing anger is good for is to warn us that we are in a power dynamic.

So feel it and give it up. Detach.

Focus on the needs and abilities.