The Source of Power is Need.
Overcome Need, and you overcome Power.
Living this however, is not so simple.
Sometimes we just need others.
A kind word. A loving embrace. Someone standing behind us just in case....
No one wants to be alone all the time.
No one can do everything for themselves.
No one can satisfy all of their needs by themselves.
It is good to control your needs. To be clear about what you really need.
Understanding that which is a requirement or a desire. Seeing how we are attached to people and ideas. Recognizing how how our attachments hurt us and create the suffering we live. This is a good start to overcoming power. It is how we will get power out of our relationships. It is how we find true love and compassion. It is how we live in peace.
However...
Needing others is real and necessary.
Yet it is not the needing that is wrong. It is the way we need. The way we insist on our needs. The way we are attached to our attachments.
Overcoming power is overcoming need. But that does not mean living as an insensitive hermit.
One can still hold a need and have overcome it.
People need people.
It is being too attached to just one or two that leads to pain.
People are wonderful.
Nothing comes to us except through other people.
But there are a good six billion out there to chose from.
Go crazy...
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How does power help us find true love?
We all need people, but even more so we need people to need us. It gives our lives direction, a sense of purpose. It gives our lives value and meaning. It is when we suspect we are no longer needed that we turn to use power to show the other person they still need us. In an attempt to salvage the relationship we make things worse as power destroys trust.
In our quest for happiness we exploit others needs as we think this is what will make us happy. Little do we know that true happiness can only be found in meeting another’s need rather than exploiting it to get our needs met. When we stop using power in an attempt of getting our own trivial needs met and are able to share the joy of seeing another’s need met, we find true happiness. It is in these circumstances that we are actually getting our biggest needs met and we didn’t have to use power. We find purpose, we get a sense of accomplishment, and we find happiness. And all this by resisting the use of power.
What a world we would live in if this became our focus. If we were open about the reciprocal vulnerability in our needs and embraced it with understanding and compassion.
People need people. What we do with this knowledge is up to us.
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