Question Seven - The Hope

Q VII. WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE?

When we all can use Power equally,
It is no longer a viable way to succeed.

The remaining alternative is Collaboration.

Can we both get what we want?Can we work together in open honesty?"




Well this is where it actually gets hard.

Up to this point we have learned new insights about power. Do attain them you have had to rethink your reality. Power is not a characteristic of some person. It is a method of getting things done. It is a method that relies on Needs and Abilities.

Past definitions of power are all about Person A imposing their will upon Person B. Sometimes we focus our attention on the deliberateness of this imposition or domination. Sometimes we are more focused on the ability of Person A to define realities for Person B and thus make the domination more complete.

But always past definitions have focused on the power and success of Person A. As such our quest for power has always been to mimic the traits, possessions and actions of person A. We have seen power as something Person A has.

Person A however is not where the secret lies.

Person B has the Source of Power.

To learn about having Power you have been required to redirect your focus and redefine your terminology. In doing so you have discovered the Source of Power and understood how the Power Dynamic works.

I think you get it.

Our new definition of Power focuses on the Subject – just as the Actor does – and describes the experience. Power is nothing more than the application of a Mechanism by Person A to the Needs of Person B to in an attempt to Control, Influence or Seduce a Choice of Person B that is beneficial to Person A.

What is the Truth? Control is an Illusion. The Only thing we control is how we respond to the circumstances before us.

So what are they responding to? They are responding to the source of Power.

What is the Source of Power? The Source of Power is Need. But for the Need there is no Power.

How does it work? The Actor sees the Need of the Subject and applies a Mechanism of Power to the Need. This application creates a feeling of Motivation like Fear, Anger, or Excitement. These feelings lead to the experience of Control, Influence or Seduction of the Choice targeted by the Actor.

Why are they using Power? Because they have a Need that the Subject can satisfy. This Need is the Source of Power for the Subject. All Power Dynamics are BiPolar in nature. By exploiting the Need of the Actor the Subject can balance the Power Dynamic. By seeing the Dynamic for what it is you retain the ability to make a choice. Having Choice is having Power.

What are the Choices? Usually there are three basic choices that can be combined in any way you choose. Compliance, Resistance or Withdrawal. It may be in your best interest to simply comply. You can use the Power you have to renegotiate and resist. We often call this Empowerment. Or you can depower your Needs by denying them, deferring them, displacing them or detaching them. Depowerment is taking the Power out of your Needs and withdrawing from the circumstance.

So…where do we go from here?

Power is balanced. Power is equalized. The process of Power is understood and can be utilized by everyone.

Where do we go from here?

What would the world be like if everyone knew how to use Power?

A constant state of war? A complete stalemate?

When power doesn’t work anymore we are forced to consider new options.

It is the subtle secrecy of power that we deplore. It is the manipulative feeling that accompanies it that we find abhorrent. It is the way it destroys trust that ruins our future and guarantees that we will be trapped in Power Dynamics forever.

So don’t use it.

Depower your life.

Detach from those things that are transient. Release desires, because we are never really satisfied. Learn to control your requirements. Take control over your body. It is the only thing you really could control anyway.

When you have a good desire and you cannot attain it without someone’s help, ask for help.

Seek out collaboration. Work together in open honesty. Put the truth on the table and share.

Collaboration is the new way. In collaboration lies compassion. And that is what will save us.

Compassion is the opposite of Power.